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January 17, 2006
I got drunk and called France.
I drunk-dialed France. Twice. But that is not even the beginning of the story of my past five days, it's not the end, either, it's just there sandwiched in between "get mad at funeral home guy" and "people at my house are measuring themselves using a pink ballpoint pen on my white front door."
How was ya'lls weekend?
Mine began on Thursday, because my mom was in town and down in The OC with my grandma and Aunt Pam. I could have driven down to visit them, which certainly would have been quicker and easier, so instead of course I decided to take mass transporation. Glutton! Punishment! Sign me up! Over the course of two days I rode on eleventeen types of public transportation. Ya'll cannot imagine the quantity of wet wipes this journey took.
Los Angeles has transit, we do! It's just real hard to get to. Like, you have to drive to the mass transit, see? But I have a car that is real easy to steal, and in fact has been stolen, so I prefer not to park it overnight in strange parking lots. Instead, I walked two miles to the Orange Line busway, which drove me from Encino-ish to North Hollywood, where I caught a subway to Union Station. At Union Station, I boarded an Amtrak train for south OC. Yes. I did this. It was like one of those dreams you have where you keep walking and walking and you never get anywhere. Then suddenly you are naked.
Also, next time you get tempted to say "Oh, no one takes mass transit in LA!" you think again. The trains and buses were PACKED like little sardine tins full of people. (Luckily, no one was naked.)
My mom and Grandma picked me up in the OC, one million hours later, and we went ... directly to the cemetery. My mom neglected to tell me this would be the first stop on my little mini-vacation. THE CEMETERY. Where Grandpa is buried. I thought we might go shopping. Or watch TV. No. WE ARE VISITING THE DEAD.
Only, we're not just visiting. No. We are going to visit, and be sad, and give Grandpa some pretty flowers, then we'll all go INSIDE the funeral place and talk about funeral arrangements for my grandma who, by the way, is not dead yet. This also falls into "more details my mom neglected to tell me on the phone before I journeyed by dugout and donkey to Orange Freaking County and WHERE IS THE WINE?"
And, having never chitchatted with funeral-type people before, I was surprised to discover how much like used car salesmen they are. It's all about money. And it was depressing. And these people were not Southern, so they didn't have a natural way about them of putting you at ease. It was a lot like going to Keyes Honda on Van Nuys Boulevard. And THERE WAS NO WINE.
In general I would say I do not handle death-like matters very well. I am more of an optimist, believing I will live forever and so will everyone I know. Planning for death seems quite pessimistic to me. After all, you may outwit it! I've watched six seasons of "Survivor" ... I'm pretty sure if I fly under the radar, I will outlast that bastard Death.
So, needless to say, I am not the rock of support you should take on your next trip to a FUNERAL HOME. Just saying is all.
Luckily, there was a big bottle of Scotch waiting for us at Grandma's house. And before long I was all pink cheeks and happy happy and we had all kinds of people over and then watched Dancing With The Stars in a happy warm fog of Chivas Regal. And I promptly set about killing the brain cells that contained the funeral home visit memories.
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Bus stop; The Orange Line bus is crowded; walking to the subway.
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North Hollywood red line; some subway knitting!
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This was my first time on Amtrak; look who's here!
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Flowers for Grandpa; we all need a drink after this day.
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Scotch is REALLY strong; me and my cousin Ryan drankin' away.
The next day we did some shopping and had a nice lunch together then I embarked upon a journey back to the Valley, which took many hours and ended with Jennifer picking me up in front of a liquor store in Reseda. Because that is where I hang out, yo.
Jennifer and I sat on my patio and did a little wine tasting, then maybe a little more, and before long we decided it would be a REALLY GOOD IDEA to call the hotel we have reserved in Paris and confirm our rooms and ... uh, chitchat. Ya'll know. Except there were some teetiny roadblocks, like I DO NOT KNOW HOW TO DIAL FRANCE and also, THESE NUMBERS ARE REAL SMALL, and also, MAYBE I SHOULD DRINK ONE MORE GLASS, and then, HELLO FRANCE! I DO NOT SPEAK FRENCH!
Marc at Hotel In Paris: Bonjour.
Me, drunk in Encino: Bonjour! (fit of giggles) um. Hi! Hello! Bonjour! I... kind of don't know French. Whoops!
Marc: Eets okay, I speak English.
Me (giggle giggle): Oooh! Yes! Hello! Thank you!
(insert drunken conversation here about room reservations)
Marc: Ok, everything is good, goodbye now.
Me (giggle giggle): Oooh! Bonjour! Thank you!
Jennifer: (yelling at me): Say Merci Beaucoup!
Me: huh?
Jennifer: (louder): Say Merci Beaucoup! Say it!
Me: Oh yes! Merci! Lots of Beaucoup!
So, in conclusion, the four of us are either staying in side-by-side rooms at a cute hotel in Paris, or we are sleeping on a tablecloth covered in fleas. I DO NOT KNOW. Hi Marc!
And that was just Friday, folks.
Saturday came rather early, what with the hangover and all. And Shannon's birthday party was being held... at my house! In mere hours! And there was a quick trip to the vet (don't ask) and some housecleaning, and also more housecleaning, and suddenly people were showing up and it was time to start drinking again. Which was good because Lord knows I need my blood to be at least 35% alcohol by volume to withstand the germs of mass transportation. And also to speak such excellent French.
And the party was lovely, except maybe I got drunk and insisted I was MUCH TALLER THAN everyone and that never, ever ends well, folks. But it's not a party unless someone is measuring something at my house. I think we let Shannon win the Who's Tallest contest since it was her birthday. I can't really remember.
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That first pic is Shannon talking to Randy who called from Afganistan. The FBI is totally wiretapping my phones now. Hope they enjoy lots of drunken blathering.
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Shannon, Jane, Faith with crazy halo effect. And see? My fridge does TOO have stuff on it. Geez.
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Lots of hi, hello with Penny & Shannon, Karman is so cute.
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There was much measuring, and also some champagne.
So you know, just the normal stuff. Hours of transportation, cheerful chitchat about funerals, way too much drinking and some good cake. Oh, and of course, my usual drunk dial. TO FRANCE.

We all need a vacation from our mini-vacation. Au revoir.
Posted by laurie at January 17, 2006 12:51 PM
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Sounds like my kind of fun! Glad you're back in one piece. Take a hot shower just for good measure. Helps with the germs.
Posted by: Beth at January 17, 2006 12:57 PM
Sounds damned awesome to me. More Chivas! Glad to have ya back - hope you don't hate all of us obsessive blogfans for worrying about ya. Just like a bunch of mother hens, we are.
Posted by: Pam at January 17, 2006 01:00 PM
I have TONS of experience in funeral homes. For a while people in our family were passing away at the rate of one or two a year. Funeral homes do not scare me at all. If you need me I will be more than happy to fly down with wine and make the funeral home not that scarey. I'm glad you had a great weekend.
Posted by: T. Rieder at January 17, 2006 01:02 PM
WOW! What a weekend! Glad you are back. I feel tired just reading about it! I hope you recover this week :) Good luck keeping the germs away... it seems you have had quite a recent increase in exposure!
Posted by: Rhett at January 17, 2006 01:08 PM
I bet the cats slept through most of that, didn't they?
Posted by: Shelly at January 17, 2006 01:13 PM
ohh i wondered where you wre & missed your witty banter but oh my what a weekend!
Posted by: Kat at January 17, 2006 01:20 PM
I was worried about you too! Maybe had something to do with my ex's phone call when I was three glasses into a nice bottle of Chianti to "make sure I was okay." I don't really remember the conversation, but I'm sure I came across as well adjusted. ;P Glad you had an overall nice weekend.
Posted by: Kati at January 17, 2006 01:29 PM
OK, which 5 seasons of Survivor did you skip?
Pulua Tiga, The Outback, Africa, Marquesas, Thailand, Amazon, Pearl Islands, All-Stars, Vanuatu, Palau, or Guatemala?
Posted by: turtlegirl76 at January 17, 2006 01:33 PM
If you ever find yourself in the OC again needing to do funeral stuff or other stuff, feel free to give me a shout. I drink lots of wine, sometimes scotch, and cosmos and I like to call people and speak drunken piglatin. Im fluent, really. Bring something to knit and I'll supply the beverages! Glad your weekend was good, I missed your posts.
Posted by: Bethi at January 17, 2006 01:34 PM
Bonjour Tante Purl! *LOL* Hey, can I come to Paris, too??? ;)
Didn't you do any knitting while on all those transportation? Anyhow, seems like you had loads of fun.
Posted by: Elemmaciltur at January 17, 2006 01:37 PM
Wheeew! I have dreams about experiences similar to yours, in fact, I've had experiences of a similar nature - perhaps a bit more bizarre. Think "Fellini". I am so glad that you are back! I admit to negative thoughts: you in a hospital emergency room, (and not wearing your best underwear) Roy, or one of the other kits, in dire straits; you being held captive by repairmen with union demands(?) Anyhoo - so glad y'all are with us again. Missed you. Audie.
Posted by: Audie at January 17, 2006 01:38 PM
i was wondering where you've been!
tell roy i love him.
Posted by: miss kendra at January 17, 2006 01:39 PM
What a fun weekend! Yay for Chivas and visits with Grandma. :)
I'm so jealous of your trip to Paris. My big trip will be to Oklahoma this year. Whoot!
Posted by: Kim at January 17, 2006 01:43 PM
Yea! You're back! Sounds like a hellavuh weekend-I agree about the planning of a burial before you're dead...shiver..
Hey, what was on the needles? Scarf a la Aunt Purl? Oooooo, you should start the clapotis since you're going to Paris! I know..its been done to death. but its too cute!
Posted by: Lesli at January 17, 2006 01:44 PM
Wow, you do know how to live a weekend! Note to self must have more exciting weekends, pink ink and all that.
Posted by: Debbie at January 17, 2006 01:46 PM
Yay! Sounds like you had a blast, cemetary gates not withstanding.
Scotch = FUN. It's been a hobby of mine for some time now.
You go, girl.
Posted by: Oy Vey at January 17, 2006 01:50 PM
Yay! Sounds like you had a blast, cemetary gates not withstanding.
Scotch = FUN. It's been a hobby of mine for some time now.
You go, girl.
Posted by: Oy Vey at January 17, 2006 01:52 PM
Um, had you just asked those friends (in the couch picture) who wanted more wine? Or did they need to raise their hands to request a trip to the bathroom? Just askin'! ;)
SO glad you're back. Internet life without ya is Dullsville.
Posted by: Kat at January 17, 2006 01:54 PM
And I am suddenly very, very grateful that I loathe the telephone and avoid it at all times, drunk or sober.
Posted by: Imbrium at January 17, 2006 02:07 PM
As one of your new "disciples" I was worried about you too. I just discovered you a week ago and get a kick out of your adventures. I really admire your ability to drink Chivas. I can't do it cuz my head would be in the toilet. I thoroughly understand the frustration w/funeral people. They "upgraded" my elderly mother a few years back and even though she will be cremated, she had to buy a coffin to be burned in. Go figure, I guess they funeral people have good lobbyists.
Posted by: Wendy at January 17, 2006 02:08 PM
I can't compete with France! LOL
Posted by: ~drew emborsky~ at January 17, 2006 02:09 PM
wow...big weekend. Glad everything worked out. Mass transit germs...ugh!
Posted by: ck at January 17, 2006 02:11 PM
You must print out and frame that picture of Grandma with her glass of Chivas. And remember to display it at her wake.
Posted by: Mary at January 17, 2006 02:14 PM
That looks like so much fun!!! Drunk dial France!! Oh I hate funeral homes too. When my daughter died last year, we were told we were not going to get a better deal anywhere else! OMF'ingG! Anyways, I hope yours G'ma's plans went smoother than that! Adios (as I have zero french speaking capabilities!)
Posted by: Cristina at January 17, 2006 02:19 PM
ooh drink n dial. i've never done that to france.
i've done it in france though.
so when you started talking to the funeral guy all i could think of was the cast from 6 feet under. nothing like that, huh.
Posted by: maryse at January 17, 2006 02:23 PM
I had been wondering what was up with you. Glad it was only drinking and mass transit. and I applaud you for taking mass transit whenever possible. Sounds like a fun party.
Posted by: JoVE at January 17, 2006 02:24 PM
I knew it! Bender! Sounds like fun, in a weird film noir kinda way. Glad you're back! I was a little worried. Thought I might have to call out Minou and her mommy.
Posted by: Ande at January 17, 2006 02:29 PM
oh yeah, I drunkdialed drew, too. hi drew! let's get married! heh heh
Posted by: laurie at January 17, 2006 02:54 PM
Dead people are not to be feared. It's the live one that will get you (live ones with scotch). My x's family owned a Mortuary and at one point (during a separation) he lived in the apartment above. The only thing that really bothered me was the smell. Maybe they were French.
Anyway, glad you're back keeping us entertained.
We heart you Aunt Purl. Tonight I toast your return with some Crown Royal. Maybe I'll drunk call Mexico (my planned vacation destination).
Posted by: psychomom at January 17, 2006 03:10 PM
We were ready to send out the dogs on ya. You know that you should never go and not tell what kind of rasin you got girl. Don't make us worry and think of you in a ditch some where. Glad to have you back safe and sound. I finial follwed your lead and started a blog. Not as good as yours but it has cat pictures so there.
Posted by: Roy (no really) at January 17, 2006 03:16 PM
Well, no wonder you didn't post forever and ever. You were stuck on mass transit in LA! Pretty f'ing courageous especially with your germ-a-phobia and all.
Posted by: cant_talk_knitting at January 17, 2006 03:30 PM
I can't believe you friggin took mass transit to ORANGE COUNTY. It's like, an HOUR's drive! Hi-de-ho to saving the environment and all, but, BABE. ORANGE COUNTY. Sheeyat. No wonder you felt compelled to "cleanse" with alkyhall. {{shudder}}
Posted by: MonkeyGurrrrl at January 17, 2006 03:33 PM
Hi Roy! Hi Soba! Welcome back to reality, CAP!
Posted by: Chris at January 17, 2006 03:46 PM
Wow. SO glad to see you back in the blog saddle. Looks like a great weekend.
See, all the worrying we did is really your own fault, Laurie. You're such a prolific blogger that you've got us trained to check the blog every 12 hours for new posts. We freak if there's no new post over a long weekend and start imagining lying-in-a-ditch scenarios.
Posted by: Lauren in Austin at January 17, 2006 03:50 PM
Mmmmmmmmm cake! C'mon, let's hear about the vet visit!
Posted by: Bonney at January 17, 2006 04:05 PM
Yes, Lauren! Exactly.
Posted by: Jenny at January 17, 2006 04:05 PM
Du-oh! - I'm so confused as to how our comments are interchanged. Guess it doesn't really matter - 'cause we'all are sooo glad that you are back!
Posted by: Audie at January 17, 2006 04:41 PM
Scotch & Cake...in the same weekend? Your so lucky!!!
Posted by: Miss Mantoan at January 17, 2006 04:46 PM
Was that a television on the bus? Only in LA. :-) When I first moved into my house in San Carlos, California (northern) I took a walk to the grocery one day. I was walking back with my groceries when a nice policeman stopped in his car to see if I needed help. He assumed there was something wrong with my car!
Ah, California. (I'm a native Southerner too who after years and years in Cali - both northern and southern - I'm back in Tennessee!)
I love your blog.
Posted by: sheila at January 17, 2006 04:55 PM
Du-oh! - I'm so confused as to how our comments are interchanged. Guess it doesn't really matter - 'cause we'all are sooo glad that you are back!
Posted by: Audie at January 17, 2006 05:02 PM
Who isn't taller/stronger/thicker-headed when they've had stuff to drink? I personally think I can win any head-butting contest... especially after drinking. And yes, public transportation in California sucks :-)
Posted by: Laurel at January 17, 2006 05:13 PM
I think my first clue as to the day was "subway in LA?!?" Uh like HELLO LOL
Posted by: Kevin at January 17, 2006 05:47 PM
SO weirded out by the thought of talking to an OC Funeral Home Salesman guy - did he have white teeth and a tan and a gold chain and a crispy shirt and...argh! Scary! Traumatic! Drinkdrinkdrink!
Meanwhile, we will wait to see you on tv, when you are drinking International Foods coffee and talking about...JEAN LUC!
Posted by: Petra at January 17, 2006 05:52 PM
let me just save you the trouble of moseying on over to my journal...lord knows you've done enough commuting. i do, however, think you should get to share the joy of this morning's commute. so stop on by iffin you get a chance.
Posted by: s at January 17, 2006 06:41 PM
I'm pretty optimistic about the death thing, too. Even with my husband's job, which involves blowing stuff up. And he actually HAS been blown up a few times. But he's OK. See, no death.
I've never been inside a funeral home. Or been to a funeral. Even when my parents owned a courier service and I delivered flowers for them, I would let my helper bring them into the funeral home while I waited in the van.
Then, a few years ago, my mom told me she was planning to BUY a funeral home and that I could work there for her. Yikes. I wasn't sad to see THAT deal fall through.
I would have needed a LOT of wine.
And all of my in-laws are french. That also requires booze. Lots.
Posted by: Tara at January 17, 2006 07:33 PM
and how was Randy?
Posted by: Cheryl at January 17, 2006 07:45 PM
Well you spelled "Marc" correctly, which is a sure sign of Paris success :) you being so sensitive to the natives and all...
Posted by: Ilovekatiecouric at January 17, 2006 07:59 PM
I was going to comment earlier but I was reading your post at work. Had to let a coworker read it. We both laughed so hard. You have quite a way with words.
I figured you off somewhere having fun or getting into trouble when I kept checking the site over the weekend and there had been no updates.
Just think of the door as yet another quirky feature of your home. Oh, and the drunken calls to France? Classic...
Posted by: Dagny at January 17, 2006 08:14 PM
HAHA I am taller than both you and Jen! HAHA!
But why are we all raising our hands in that picture while Amber is the only one looking at the camera? Ah, was that when someone asked if we wanted cake? That's why she didn't get the ice cream cake! Mmm. Ice cream cake and champagne. Good times.
Posted by: Gloria at January 17, 2006 10:09 PM
The funeral scene is the worst! I had to help make “arrangements" for a friend’s mom. Went to one on Van Nuys Blvd. aka “Mortuary Row” near Keyes. Smarmy is the word that comes to mind and you’re right, they ain’t Southern. The worst was the video of the caskets. Yucch! The whole place was creepy. Made the Munsters and the Addams
Family look normal. We did find a nice place that offered cremation at a decent price. Later when my dad died I tried to find them. They’d gotten swallowed by Smarmy Inc. It’s a totally obscene business that takes advantage of you at a terrible time. They’re friggin’ freaks!
The key word in LA mass transit is “mass” as in pray that it comes on time or at all. I don’t think they’re TV’s, more like mobile infomercials?
Glad you’re back!
Posted by: Bob Merlin at January 17, 2006 11:05 PM
Fun weekend, rather busy.
Wet wipes, dontcha just love 'em.
Posted by: Estee at January 18, 2006 01:06 AM
One of my most sureal memories of the day after my mum died was my dad and his best friend taking a guided tour of the cemetary so they could select the best positioned plot for my mum's buriel. It was so bizarre. And I could just hear my mum saying, "as long as they enjoyed themselves..."
Posted by: Maggie B at January 18, 2006 02:49 AM
What is it about french and alchohol? It is a well known fact in my household that I am only fluent in french after a large amount of the stuff. It is as if I need copious amounts of it to unlock my linguistic capabilities!
Posted by: Janine at January 18, 2006 03:09 AM
I'm sorry about your freaky funeral home experience, but believe it or not, when I read your post I had just returned from interviewing for a job in funeral home sales. I swear. Hopefully not all funeral home staff are like used car salesman, and I promise I won't be like that (if I get the job). I hope the rest of your trip was fine - it looks like you had a good laugh as always. Your attitude is great and I love reading about your adventures.
Posted by: Chelle at January 18, 2006 03:52 AM
I'm sorry about your freaky funeral home experience, but believe it or not, when I read your post I had just returned from interviewing for a job in funeral home sales. I swear. Hopefully not all funeral home staff are like used car salesman, and I promise I won't be like that (if I get the job). I hope the rest of your trip was fine - it looks like you had a good laugh as always. Your attitude is great and I love reading about your adventures.
Posted by: Chelle at January 18, 2006 03:52 AM
Sounds like a great time, except the mass transit thing... but I have driven in LA traffic and it's about the only thing worse than their mass transit.
Posted by: Cindra at January 18, 2006 03:53 AM
Sorry - I double posted there. I was glad to see you are knitting away - what is the pink thing you're making?
Posted by: Chelle at January 18, 2006 03:56 AM
What an awesome weekend!! I have a knitting question for you: Do you knit combination style? I know you took Annie Modesitt's class and now y'all are best friends. I've been trying to learn her style 'cause it looks like it will go faster. And when are you gonna start that corset? I'm so excited that you're going to Paris!! Y'all are gonna have a great time. I wish I was going. Last thing: Since I'm usually a lurker...thanks for sharing your life story with all us strangers in webland. You're sweet.
Posted by: Jaimie L at January 18, 2006 05:08 AM
Oh, my lord...Purl! The next time you call France, please put me on three-way, okay? Even drunk, I can rock the language! Fluently, even! I will so make sure you are not staying in a motel with fleas...in fact, I will score you an excellent room, plus a very hot and sexy French man to wait on your every need. :)
Posted by: Bad Hippie at January 18, 2006 06:00 AM
Too bad funeral directors in LA are not hotties like Nate (or even the evil Kronnor guy) on Six Feet Under. I would gladdy join all my elderly relatives while planning their funeral.
I watch way too much TV.
Posted by: Stacey at January 18, 2006 06:13 AM
So glad you're back. The funeral home thing kinda reminds me of the time my grandparents gave me a gift of cemetary plots. FOR EASTER!
We do funny things down here in the South.
Posted by: Susannah at January 18, 2006 06:17 AM
Uh, Laurie - Drew and I just got pinned. I'm just sayin'.
And, here's a little tip:
http://www.costco.com/Browse/Product.aspx?rodid=11008302&whse=BC&topnav=&browse=
Posted by: Annie at January 18, 2006 07:08 AM
damn. How do I add a link? damn.
I need to drink.
Oh, BTW, I'm flying out tomorrow. Hope to see you while I'm out!
Posted by: Annie at January 18, 2006 07:09 AM
damn. How do I add a link? damn.
I need to drink.
Oh, BTW, I'm flying out tomorrow. Hope to see you while I'm out!
Posted by: Annie Apple Modesitt at January 18, 2006 07:09 AM
eeek! I'm not sure how I feel about the crazy halo picture!
Posted by: Meem at January 18, 2006 10:42 AM
Question: is Soba permanently attached to Roy? Kitty love--strong stuff.
Posted by: pam at January 18, 2006 12:44 PM
I think you stopped in my town on your trip to the OC! As one of the 3 people in OC that use public transport I recognized the pics of the train station...
Posted by: heidi at January 18, 2006 02:02 PM
It's sweet to see how much Sobakawa loves Roy.
Posted by: Martigny at January 21, 2006 07:12 PM
It's sweet to see how much Sobakawa loves Roy.
Posted by: Martigny at January 21, 2006 07:13 PM
Sorry about the double post.
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I surely, purely love those beautiful kitty babies. Thanks for sharing.
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