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December 28, 2005

Lists are the elixir of life.

When I die? My tombstone will be in list format. Preferably in Arial bold, or maybe Tahoma if we're feeling jaunty, with bullet points.

I am a list maker. Grocery lists, to-do lists, budget lists, change-my-life lists. Each year brings Birthday Resolutions and New Year's To-Dos and To-Don'ts. I list my life away, often on post-it notes. (And that is a whole nother column, because Good Lord do I have a post-it note problem!)

I make lists when I am stressed out, tired, lonely, bored, busy, frantic, drinking coffee, watching TV. My lists are: things I must remember, projects around the house to complete, things to buy if I won the lottery, people to call, places I want to visit, concepts and principles to incorporate into my daily life, quotes, book titles, things about myself I want to change, things about my life that are good, reasons it's good to be single, groceries, stuff to get at Target. Etcetera. Sometimes I make lists of things I have already completed just so I can draw a thick line through them and feel very accomplished.

I hope you make lists, too, because I truly believe there is nothing a list can't cure. Just the very act of making the list makes you feel better. Like you are ON TOP of this thing! You have it under control! You have... A LIST!


My 2006 List of TO-DOs and TO-DON'Ts


Money Things:

• Bring lunch to work a lot

• No more late fees at the library. I mean, really. That is just sad.

• Cut trips to grocery store down to 1-2 per week instead of the nightly "Nothing at home sounds good maybe a trip to the frozen foods aisle will help..."

• Deposit money into savings account each paycheck.

• Stop buying stuff that I don't need.

• Stick to The Budget.

• When faced with the opportunity to spend embarrassing $$ on shoes OR put towards monster consumer debt, choose to enjoy current selection of shoes.



The Size Of My Ass:

• Walk on the treadmill every day. Must get money's worth from large, expensive machine in living room.

• Eat healthy stuff

• Stop trying to rationalize french fries.

• Eat vegetables other than french fries.

• Eat vegetables.

• Drink less alcohol.

• Drink more water.


Personal Good Stuff & Leaving The House:

• Every day, choose happy over sad, free over constrained, liberated over abandoned, and laugh a lot. Wake up the next day and repeat.

• Take private salsa lessons.

• Go out salsa dancing at least once this summer with all the girls.

• Forget about fear.

• Go to the Laemmle on Sundays now and then to see indie movies.

• Plant a garden.

• Volunteer at least once for the joy of it.

• During the calendar year, go on one date even though I am terrified of dating and would prefer to stay home and play Grand Theft Auto or knit. Just one proper date, with a guy who is not married or a stalker or mean, where he takes me out to dinner and I wear a pretty dress. Or maybe just lunch. Actually, coffee might be better. Oh God do not want to go on scary date.

• Go on a trip. (Paris, baby!)

• Visit my parents.

• Visit my grandma.

• Stop procrastinating. Just stop it already.

• Make an effort to wear makeup to work and fuss with hair and so on like normal girlygirl instead of appearing at desk like death on cracker each day.

• Whenever tempted to say, "Oh, Mr. X and I went there..." or "I did that with Mr. X..." close mouth. Do not speak. Think of cute puppies.

• Moisturize.

• Floss.

• Play mini-golf

• Host a dinner party in which I actually cook dinner without dropping it or burning it or ordering pizza.

• Do something fun on my birthday. Even if my birthday hates me.

• Spend Christmas anywhere but alone in house with cats feeling maudlin. Possibly on a beach somewhere reading paperbacks while a cabana boy in red bikini pants brings drinks with umbrellas in them.


Practical:

• Sign up for the 401(k) plan

• Understand that love of Jeep is irrational and ergo, true love

• Get new tires on Jeep

• Tune up for Jeep

• Change furnace filter at home every six weeks.

• Show up for work 1/2 an hour earlier.

• Don't take glitches at work personally.

• Schedule vacation time.

• Work hard. Make deadlines a day early.

• Sell the pink imac on eBay.

• Ditto the 8-track players and 8-track tapes.

• Look at all the options.

• Have a positive attitude. Especially at work and with all co-workers. Suit up, show up and act as if....

• Finish the ____ (private)

• Send thank-you notes

Knitting:

• Finish my mom's fuzzyfeet.

• Make the fingerless gloves I wanted so that my hands will stay warm during the chilly summer Air Conditioner months at White Guys In Ties, Inc.

• Hoard all the Up Country left in the universe (optional) (see Money, above)

• Make Kitty Pis for Jen, Drew, Shan & Karman and their felines.

Finally... The Not-To-Do List:

• Don't say "yes" to things just because someone springs them on me at the last minute. Instead, say "Let me think about it and get back to you."

• Time is sparse, life if short. Don't waste it on useless things, people, memories, obligations.

• Don't worry about stuff I can't change anyway.

• Don't expect other people to live by my values.

• Don't compromise my values for anyone.

• Don't choose the known over the unknown just because it's comfortable.

• Don't waste time on stupid stuff or mean stuff. Frequently ask myself "Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?"

• Don't minimize success.

• Don't be tempted to Live Locked Inside when it's possible to Live Out Loud. And it is possible!

This list is subject to change and modification of course. There's more philosophical navel-pondering and drunken observations about 2005 and precarious hopes for 2006 to come later in the week. And of course some truly frightening pictures of my hair and some January Hor-O-Scopes. I do hope you'll make a list, not so much Resolutions as goals and hopes and your own To-Do and To-Don't pile for the coming year. May your list be bulleted and bold! Or numbered and small. It does not matter. To list is to live. To list online is to live out loud!

May you ... list long and prosper.

Posted by laurie at December 28, 2005 11:22 AM

Comments

Yah. Hey, good luck with that. I get up in the morning and I think I'm doing well.

Posted by: MonkeyGurrrrl at December 28, 2005 11:23 AM

Of course, I'm down with the Arial font. Bold. 12 pt.

Posted by: MonkeyGurrrrl at December 28, 2005 11:25 AM

Once again, I'm gonna keep on posting until someone else notices.

I like bullets; I especially like using them in Word, where the styles are automated. Makes me feel like I know what I'm doing. This blogger stuff is for the birds. I can barely figure out how to bold stuff.

Posted by: MonkeyGurrrrl at December 28, 2005 11:27 AM

It's good to have a list! Or not. Some people are maybe not so much listmakers. But for those of us who are, New Year's is MECCA, baby.

Posted by: laurie at December 28, 2005 11:28 AM

I bring lunch to work every day. It gets kinda boring (since I have a severely limited list of acceptable lunch foods - can't require heating, refrigeration or utensils), but I figure, it saves me about $6 - $8/day. How people more poor than I can afford to eat out every day is beyond me. And then they do the barstucks thing for coffee - another $4. Crazy.

Posted by: MonkeyGurrrrl at December 28, 2005 11:30 AM

List:
1) Read CAP every day
2) Knit

I enjoyed your lists very much. Another listmaker - they make me feel in control even if I NEVER DO ANYTHING ON THE LIST. That is the beauty of lists! Say - I discovered your blog 6 months ago and it has been a delight. You have shared so much over the year - I laugh, cry, drink wine, wish I had cats, remind myself to finsih knitting.

I really hope that your 2006 is a fabulous year. Re the dating - maybe the cute cabana boy will take you to lunch? The best thing about lists is doing TWO AT ONCE!!

Thank you, Aunt Purl

Posted by: Kimberling at December 28, 2005 11:30 AM

:) I love you, Purl. You make my day.

Posted by: MonkeyGurrrrl at December 28, 2005 11:32 AM

Wow. I could have written that list. Thanks, Aunt Purl. I hope to get to "date" at least once or twice this coming year.

Here's wishing you and me both a great 2006!

Posted by: Mary in Boston at December 28, 2005 11:33 AM

Kimberling you are so right!! I was thinking I may combine going out salsa dancing *and* my b-day, heh heh.

Monkey! I also have a limit on what I can bring for lunch. We do have a fridge but limited access to a microwave. So salads and sandwiches are about it. But I figure it saves me also $4-10 a day.

Posted by: laurie at December 28, 2005 11:33 AM

this was terrific....
I need to start my own list.

Posted by: Cheryl at December 28, 2005 11:36 AM

Amen Mary!

I figure that any date will be terrifying but if I go on one, I will have gotten over the scary first-time-post-deevorce-dating thing. Then it will be no big deal. Plus I can always come home *afterwards* and play Grand Theft Auto or knit!!

Posted by: laurie at December 28, 2005 11:36 AM

I always knew we were kindred spirits. There are few things I love more in life than a good list. I have lists on my deks, on my fridge, in my desk at work, in my school bag.. you name it. I even have a journal that I keep a never-ending list of things I am grateful for in. There is something about a list that soothes a tired soul.

Posted by: Beth at December 28, 2005 11:40 AM

I also share the joy of list-making. Nothing feels bettter than a little check or a big sharpie-line through a completed list item! I am inspired by your list (I prefer "lists" over "resolutions" anyday) and will ponder my own over the next few days!
Cheers to you, Auntie Purl!

Posted by: Meem at December 28, 2005 11:41 AM

LOL at Grand Theft Auto...I never got past Super Mario Brothers 3. But yeah, knowing that knitting or a good book is waiting for me at the end of the date is kind of comforting.

Posted by: Mary in Boston at December 28, 2005 11:44 AM

Your budget is excellent! Like the note about making $9K a month. Why not? Maybe soon we all will be making that much. I will buy two houses then.

Posted by: Daphne at December 28, 2005 11:44 AM

I SO get your list-making. I, too, make long lists of everything I can think of because, yes, it does make me feel like I have accomplished something. It also helps me to not forget why I went to the grocery store the second I step inside the doors. My favorite part was the thing about writing down stuff you've already done just so that you can cross it off. I totally do that!

Posted by: Amanda at December 28, 2005 11:45 AM

Lists. It's love-hate with me. I love the feeling you described of "being on top of this!" but then when I'm looking at the the list, I start to feel, "Hey! I can do what I want! You're not the boss of me!" and ditch said list. But I like making the lists.

Posted by: roggey at December 28, 2005 11:47 AM

Ditto with the loving of lists. Sometimes it is the only way I can not feel completely out of control with all the things that need to be done.

Posted by: Mindy at December 28, 2005 11:52 AM

Lunch is pricey! When both me and my husband were buying lunch it would total $75-$100/week easy! That is figuring about $6 for me and $10 for him...he is 7 feet tall and skinny as a rail...whatever. It saves so much money I can actually go to the good yarn store at least once a month!

Posted by: Krista M at December 28, 2005 11:52 AM

I love me a list. In fact, my lists are so similar to yours, I think I may just print out your list. Wait, let me put that on my to-do list: P-r-i-n-t o-u-t...well, anyway - what is up with all the nightly rain? And are the people in Pacifica going to die?

Posted by: Petra at December 28, 2005 11:55 AM

Mmm, lists. I love me a list.

Perhaps I shouldn't mention this, but I noticed the "Knitting" list did not include "Finish the unnamed cat thingamajig and tell the blog what I made." Are we ever going to find out what you had planned? Just curious. I mean, even if you don't finish it, I'd like to know what it was supposed to be.

Posted by: Imbrium at December 28, 2005 11:56 AM

Have you ever heard of The Pillow Book of Sei Shonagon? It's about this woman in Japan, she worked for an empress or something. Anyway, the empress got these blank books that she didn't want so she gave them to her maid (Shonagon) and the maid made lists, etc. of anything and everything. I just read about it in a novel. But I found it on amazon. I think you, being a list-maker, might like it. Anyway, it's called a Pillow book because she hid it in her pillow. AND Library late fees OMG .. my current late fee is $6.10 and I still have two books out (overdue). And I just HAVE to comment on your 80's pics. I took a group of girls on a trip to Mexico in 1989. They were 14-17 years old. One of them I teased a lot because her hair was in pictures that the rest of her body wasn't in!!! Too funny.

Posted by: Beth at December 28, 2005 11:57 AM

You are my KINDRED SPIRIT! Oops, what that a little to stalkerish? Yeah, sorry 'bout that. But seriously, I live and die by making lists (not actually following them, but by making them).

I have to-do lists, need to buy lists (for work and home), yarn I want lists, what to knit lists, grocery lists, who to call lists, thank you card lists, etc.

They are EVERYWHERE. I am surrounded by discarded lists in my car, in my various knitting bags/baskets, and at work. I even found one in the fridge a little while back (and it had nothing to do with kitchen-y stuff either).

Thanks for making me feel like I am not the only one out there. Your humor always brings a smile to my face. And I GET you on so many levels. Thanks again!

Posted by: Skylar at December 28, 2005 11:57 AM

I make lists on New years of "What I Want in the Next Year." Some of it is material stuff and some is more esoteric. Then I stick the list on the inside of my bathroom cabinet door where I come upon it occasionally. I try not to limit myself to what is reasonable to expect -- instead I try to describe some of my hearts desires. I always put "World Peace" on there for good measure. There are about 5 years of these lists in the cabinet now. What's interesting is that there seems to be a 2 or 3 year time lag, but eventually I get what I say I want (except for
World Peace... so far). Then the lists become a list of successes and blessings.

Posted by: Lauren in Austin at December 28, 2005 11:59 AM

Taking a guess here... "Finish the... novel?" I hope? :-)

Posted by: donni at December 28, 2005 12:00 PM

Laurie,

I love lists also. They make me feel cozy and in control (as if that's possible). Of all your intentions, I think the most important one is "choose happy over sad" and repeat as often as necessary.

Posted by: Mary Anne at December 28, 2005 12:01 PM

Hmm, I'd rather stay at home to play GTA and/or knit than go out on a date. However, I like to think that I still have a lot of my life left in front of me. (I'm 19.) Hmm, now that I think about it, it is kind of sad.

I'm hoarding Up Country too.

This is the first time I've commented--just want to say I love your blog.

Posted by: Alex at December 28, 2005 12:02 PM

I am addicted to Post-It notes and the little tape flags. Great for marking pages in knitting books and magazines.

I love lists. I have a little notebook I carry with me so I can constantly make lists, add to lists, cross things off of lists, etc.

Posted by: Debbie at December 28, 2005 12:03 PM

Excellent list, Laurie. And good luck with the budget - I'm notoriously bad with money. Always tempted by the siren songs of food, yarn, booze, and chocolate. I'm working on my 2006 resolutions right now and my list is gonna be damn long. Ack.

Posted by: Samantha at December 28, 2005 12:04 PM

Lists, gotta love them. I am a die-hard listmaker, and being a little OCD, love to carry my lists around and cross things off (yes, crossed off!) I should make a list for my life, too. Big, long list.

Isn't it funny how just writing down what you want/need to do/dream of knitting/etc. makes you feel more in control?

One last thing: what are the cats doing now? I do love your cats.

Posted by: clarelight at December 28, 2005 12:05 PM

Here's to a fantastic 2006 - you definitely deserve it. And good luck sticking to The Budget - I'm horrible with money, always led astray by the sensuous sirens of food, booze, chocolate & yarn.

Posted by: Samantha at December 28, 2005 12:08 PM

I am a list-maker too. And perhaps this makes me a stalker, but I love to read other people's lists, so your list-making entries make me very happy. :)

I don't think Sobokawa will tolerate your thinking about cute puppies, but I agree wholeheartedly with the sentiment.

Happy 2006 y'all!

Posted by: Julie at December 28, 2005 12:11 PM

does a list count if it's totally mental?

like i have a list in my head that says...

my daily day
- get to work... on time ish please
- get breakfast- take twenty minutes
- read paper and eat breakfast- take however long is necessary to read paper
- read every blog in supplemental list once, occasionally twice if i posted and i'm a stalker with nothing better to do and hoping that my comment will get answered
- figure out ways to waste time
- go home
- knit and play with cat

there's no real room in there for any eating other than breakfast. lunch and dinner are up in the air...

and i guess now that list has been committed to internet... so...

damn. my question no longer counts

Posted by: me at December 28, 2005 12:13 PM

Comprehensive is the word that comes to my mind! exhaustive list that makes min look like trash! And i so feel ur beat on the post its
have a lovely day
love
g

Posted by: g at December 28, 2005 12:14 PM

p.s. i am a post-it-note freak. but people steal my o-so-kewl post-it's because they are jealous of their kewlness. i have blue and lime green right now, and some kitch-ie white ones with my company's logo emblazened on the side... post it's are stationary heaven. and staplers

Posted by: me at December 28, 2005 12:15 PM

Library fees are civic minded! I think of them as a donation. I just try not to incur them on books where I was #917 on the waiting list.

Here's to 2006 being better than 2005. It can't be that hard.

Posted by: Carrie K at December 28, 2005 12:17 PM

can your list include going to snb?

it should.

Posted by: miss kendra at December 28, 2005 12:25 PM

I'm not a list maker. Never have been. But there's quite a lot of evidence at this point (and frequent suggestions from my boss) that perhaps I should be. I like your list. I like a lot of things on it, and very definitely need to do the 'bring lunch' and 'stay on budget' ones. Maybe the first thing on my list for 2006 should be to make more lists?

Posted by: Rachel H at December 28, 2005 12:30 PM

Wow, what an amazingly detailed list. My rough mental list (now not mental, since I'm posting it, as "me" pointed out above) is much simpler. Exercise regularly again, eat better, knit more, socialize more, drink less. Hmm. Specific details might make these feel more attainable, eh?

Posted by: Chris at December 28, 2005 12:31 PM

Purl, your exhaustive list is exhausting me and it isn't even 2006 yet.

After my divorce, a zillion years ago, I found that all the grungy crap took care of itself when I focused on only five things:

1. Cats are the conceptual key to the entire universe.

2. Cats, knitting, music, and good books can truly give me everything I desire - and they combat loneliness since I'm never alone without those things.

3. Love myself first - then the "loving everyone else" part is so easy.

4. Wine is a gift from the gods, but like all good gifts, should be shared and not used alone.

5. The only way to find a decent guy that loves you for who you really are is to BE who you really are, an authentic person with all your quirks and weirdness and wonderfullness and bad hair and cats. Guys tend to fall into your lap when you least expect it. My second husband, the love of my life, walked in on me in a tanning salon - literally feel from the sky - once I realized that being myself was fine.

Hang in there girlfriend - it's all OKAY! We love you -

Posted by: Pam at December 28, 2005 12:33 PM

Great list! Re: the Upcountry - elann.com has some up on discount now. It's a silvery grey color.

Posted by: Bella at December 28, 2005 12:35 PM

Are you going to an annual-type horoscope??

Posted by: Cheryl at December 28, 2005 12:39 PM

Those are some very worthy lists (and goals)
Heres to keeping to your list! CHEERS!

Posted by: Carla at December 28, 2005 01:13 PM

I think you should do a chinese horror-scope. It's the year of the dog. Hmmmmmm. Can't wait for the next year of the monkey!!!!

Posted by: MonkeyGurrrrl at December 28, 2005 01:25 PM

I'm stealing your list and making it my own. You could sue me if you want, but I didn't see that on your To Do list, so I wouldn't think you would want to go off list so soon.

Posted by: Robin at December 28, 2005 01:32 PM

If you do nothing else on your list(s), go for the salsa. It is soooo much fun. And the best thing? There are no mistakes! You can make every move look like you meant it to be that way. Is that a deal?

Posted by: Debbie at December 28, 2005 01:38 PM

Oh, I feel so tired! All the lists, the crazy lists! Ever so much to keep track of. Too many expectations of yourself!
But I'm an inveterate non-list maker; I keep it all in my head, which is of course why I dash hither and yon like a rabid monkey most days and why I seem so very preoccupied. Takes all kinds to make this world!

Posted by: tiff at December 28, 2005 01:39 PM

Oh, my.

Lists, yes. I can barely function WITH them, let alone without. Grocery shopping listlessly? I'll be missing some key ingredient like garlic later.

And I so put the finished things down. Those strikeouts! What a feeling of accomplishment.

The only place I don't do lists is yarn and book shopping. They get their own budget line.

Posted by: stefaneener at December 28, 2005 01:59 PM

Ah, lists. Nothing truly exists in my life if it isn't written down.

Posted by: Reenie at December 28, 2005 02:06 PM

Love lists. Live for lists. And you're right--Post-Its are a whole other issue.

Your list is wonderful. For the first time in a long time, I've been thinking about makin' a list in preparation for the coming year. Yours may just drive me to it.

Here's to 2006!

Posted by: Diane at December 28, 2005 02:07 PM

Amen.

I intend to fully copy much of your listings when I come to terms with my "Lists" for 2006. Thanks for saying what I didn't realize I wanted to say just yet :)

Posted by: Becca at December 28, 2005 02:36 PM

I love how different we all are -- when I make a list that is long and detailed, I think, "Wow! So much opportunity! So many new things to try, so exciting!"

And other folks see a list of such craziness and think, "Oh my God! Exhausting! Just relax!" My mom is like that, we are such opposites when it comes to crazy listmaking!

I do hope 2006 is a bright shining star of a year. Seems like we all need it.

Posted by: laurie at December 28, 2005 02:51 PM

Oh my goodness, now that is a list!

First of all no matter how much you try to convince yourself, french fries just are not a veggie nor are they healthy so keep repeating that when they call your name. Evil critters they are. Tator tots are their crafty cousins.

Most importantly, THE ONLY ONE YOU CAN COUNT ON TO TAKE CARE OF YOU IS YOU!! For God's sake, run to the human resource office NOW and sign up for your 401K. This is a must! You have to be able to afford food and yarn in retirement.

Course, Paris, really is a must too. Who in their right mind can argue with Paris???

Posted by: Debbie at December 28, 2005 03:03 PM

Ha Ha! I thought I was the only one who put it on the list AFTER it was completed, just so I could draw a big line through it. :)

Posted by: Lisa at December 28, 2005 03:07 PM

love your lists. i'm not a list writer at home, but i am at work. it keeps me focused and i also feel as if i've accomplished stuff. and i too, add things to the list that i've already done, just so i can cross them out.

happy 2006!

Posted by: maryse at December 28, 2005 03:24 PM

Hey, I was just about to start my own list, but I think I'm stealing yours. Well, not everything (no salsa dancing here in my part of Iowa as far as I know, for one thing), but definitely the "getting control of your life" stuff. Oh, and the cabana boy in the red bikini with the umbrella drinks, that's definitely on my list. Thanks for saving me so much work!

Posted by: Debbie at December 28, 2005 03:26 PM

There is nothing like a good list to quell the OCD. I get mocked for bringing my notebook into the bathroom with me. Oh, have I shared too much?

Posted by: Kim in CT at December 28, 2005 03:29 PM

I'm a list maker too and yours is a keeper. Even if you don't do but half of those, it all sounds good and positive.

Posted by: Joan at December 28, 2005 03:30 PM

Ha! My DH told me I was the only one in the world who would write something I'd already done on a list just so I could feel smug when I crossed through it ... WRONG!!! Oh ... and Kim in CT, you aren't the only one. Thank heavens for cargo pockets in the uniform!

Posted by: Feral Dustbunny at December 28, 2005 03:50 PM

There is still UpCountry for sale (in 3 or so colors) at marymaxim.com

Not that I'm trying to screw up your budget or anything! :D

Posted by: julia at December 28, 2005 03:57 PM

Ohhhhh I love my lists! And I must confess that sometimes if the list seems rather long and unwieldy , I'll add such things as "get up", "drink coffee", "feed cats and dog" just so I can start the day out crossing out madly! Does much for my morale

Posted by: Susan at December 28, 2005 04:12 PM

Ohhhhh I love my lists! And I must confess that sometimes if the list seems rather long and unwieldy , I'll add such things as "get up", "drink coffee", "feed cats and dog" just so I can start the day out crossing out madly! Does much for my morale

Posted by: Susan at December 28, 2005 04:13 PM

and I have NO idea why my post ended up there twice. Sorry!

Susan

Posted by: Susan at December 28, 2005 04:14 PM

I think my server has PMS. No worries.

Posted by: laurie at December 28, 2005 04:48 PM

Love you and your lists, Laurie!

And I'm like the dude up there...I thought "finish the...novel" but then scrolled to see if I was the only genius.

I'm not the only genius.

But anyway, maybe it's something else entirely, which would make me not a genius, only a guessing fool. Happy listmaking!

Posted by: Katie at December 28, 2005 05:37 PM

I hate to be the one that tells you this but you need to throw all of those lists out. Better yet, shred them and give them to the cats to play with.

You need only one thing on your list for 2006:

"I will love myself and treat myself with compassion."

That's it. You'll be happier. And healthier. And the cats won't have any bald spots from stress. Speaking of cats, where's my photo? I need me some kitties.

Posted by: Milinda at December 28, 2005 05:50 PM

LISTS ARE MY LIFE! Without lists I'd be a dottering old lady surrounded by yarn fluff. I often find old lists crumbled up in pockets, purses, etc. It's always heartwarming to look back at those old lists and see that I've usually accomplished the tasks on them.
Hang in there...keep your lists and think of those first dates as entertaining free meals.
Hugs and Happy New Year Sweetie!

L.A. Ell

Posted by: Ellen B. at December 28, 2005 06:00 PM

I love lists and yours is great. Let me know about the summer salsa dancing. I will make a trip south just for that.

Posted by: Dagny at December 28, 2005 06:12 PM

This list is great--especially the end of it. Yay for lists! Thank you for your insight. Happy New Year!!

Posted by: molly at December 28, 2005 06:25 PM

I was never a lister until I got this job. Now, I list daily. I love the sense of accomplishment I get from crossing stuff off the list. I use different colors to prioritize too.
I have a special little notebook to list the books I want to read. Another little book for big words I need to look up and memorize. A journal full of story ideas if I ever get back to writing again. A Hello Kitty notebook of "things I need to fix/change/clean before my mother comes to visit" ('cause Mom's a big ole Judger)

and more Post-Its than I will ever use in this lifetime.

Posted by: Laurie Ann at December 28, 2005 06:29 PM

Oh and one more thing. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO DATE YET. At least, my advice is don't go looking for it online. I did that and all it was was a big self esteem bust. Don't even go looking for it. Too early. Love, me.

Posted by: LeAnne at December 28, 2005 06:36 PM

NO stalkers, weirdos, or married guys...out of a city of 4 million men that leaves......TEN.

Time to move to Utah....I'm just sayin...

Posted by: haji-o-matic at December 28, 2005 07:48 PM

Lists rock!

And I'm another one who, if I finish something that would normally be on a list but I do it before I write the list, I will go ahead and write it on the list anyway just so I can cross it off. I LOVE crossing things off my lists.

Posted by: DebR at December 28, 2005 07:58 PM

Almost on a monthly basis, I buy a little notebook so I can keep a daily to-do list; invariably 2 - 3 weeks later, I lose the little notebook - I have no idea where they go; possibly I have a stalker who collects them and they will be published posthumously, after the stalker finally gets me. Or perhaps my to-do lists are so NOT worth living-out-loud, that the little notebooks jump from my purse in despair. At any rate, with this kind of a list-making/list-losing track-record, obviously I cannot take the risk of putting a to-do list on my blog, because I can't afford to replace this computer! :>)

Posted by: Tinker at December 28, 2005 08:05 PM

I <3 Laurie and lists!

Posted by: Kyle at December 28, 2005 08:14 PM

i CAN"T live without post-its. I need to make lists to function, and yes, it does make you feel like you're on top of things. and I have very similar excel monthly budget spreadsheet. whatever works to keep you going....

Posted by: anna at December 28, 2005 08:48 PM

i CAN"T live without post-its. I need to make lists to function, and yes, it does make you feel like you're on top of things. and I have very similar excel monthly budget spreadsheet. whatever works to keep you going....

Posted by: anna at December 28, 2005 08:49 PM

i CAN"T live without post-its. I need to make lists to function, and yes, it does make you feel like you're on top of things. and I have very similar excel monthly budget spreadsheet. whatever works to keep you going....

Posted by: anna at December 28, 2005 08:49 PM

O.M.G. I thought I was the only one who added things to the list, JUST so I could cross them off with a thick, black line~~~~!!
Your writing is inspiring and your attitude is becoming healthier all the time...Rock on Aunt Purl!!

Posted by: Susanne at December 28, 2005 10:48 PM

I am a fellow-lister. My father-in-law gave me a years supply of magnetic list pads (Jan, Feb, March, etc.) for Christmas. I practically screamed with excitement when I opened the gift.

Posted by: Carrie at December 28, 2005 11:07 PM

Number One item on your list should be "Do something each day which akes me feel good because I deserve it".

And Number One item on all your loyal readers' lists should be "Vote for Aunt Purl on the new knitting blog awards because she is up in 3 categories" (and I don't know how she missed out not being one of the top 10 nominees for best technical blog after her explanations on how to do loopy stiches and felted joins and three needle bind-offs).

Paste the following address in your address bar.

http://queerjoe.blogspot.com/Knit%20Blog%20Award%20Voting3.htm

Posted by: Maggie B at December 29, 2005 01:59 AM

One thing that struck me...

the date thing: I guarantee you you could get away with having a guy over to eat pizza and play some of that Grand Theft Auto. Wouldn't have to actually call it a date, but it could be fun and a good start to dating.

Posted by: Krista at December 29, 2005 04:00 AM

You see?? This is why I've been doing nothing but sitting on my arse drinking wine for the holidays, because I left my list at work and I haven't written up another one! Must write list before I leave the house to make sure I remember to do everything that needs to be done.. Must write a list so I remember to write a list. ARGH!

Posted by: daiixi at December 29, 2005 05:11 AM

I love you.

I'm totally swiping your list and tweeking it to make it my own.

All hail Soba!... hehe.

Lucky

Posted by: Lucky at December 29, 2005 05:53 AM

I am a cursed list maker too. I currently have about 15 stickies on my mac. Two notes from 2005 are very appropriate now and have a lot of meaning for me:


In the New Year may you:
Celebrate life.
Breathe deeply.
Love fully.
Live openly.
Embark on adventure.
Embrace challenge.
Partake of life's pleasures.
Find truth.
Seek peace.
Share love.
Sparkle with enthusiasm.
Treasure quiet moments.
Share a kindness.
Kindle a friendship.
Glory in being.
Create beautiful things.
Be generous with praise.
Compliment yourself.
Collect memories.
Pursue dreams.
Behold simple beauty.
Love each day.
Live each moment.
(author unknown)

and

peace. it does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work. it means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.
(author unknown)

Posted by: Jennifer at December 29, 2005 06:20 AM

Did you know there used to be a magazine, "To Do List Magazine," that collected to-do lists and other random lists and published them (in the original handwriting). I was THIS close to subscribing, and then it folded. Perhaps because "subscribe to To Do List Magazine" was on everyone's list, but not at the top? I could live my life in lists. Who am I kidding? I DO live my life in lists. Thanks for helping me understand that I am not alone.

Posted by: Liz at December 29, 2005 07:22 AM

I bet someone else has mentioned this already, but just in case they haven't--the third paragraph of your post is basically a list of all the different kinds of lists you make...

Posted by: Rachel at December 29, 2005 07:58 AM

I love lists! I make them and make them and look at them and then lose them. So I make another! Whheeeee!

Oh, and a not so scary way to land a date, at the salsa lessons. Then he's already seen you being silly and (if you're me) a complete klutz, what could possibly be worse (yeah, I know...a lot, but hey we're thinking positive and living out loud right?).

Posted by: Kat at December 29, 2005 08:12 AM

Great lists! I haven't done my own yet, but here's a short one for you (hope you don't mind):

* accept that you won't always do the things on your to-do list
* accept that you won't always not do the things on your not-to-do list
* remember that you are a wonderful person anyway
* whatever else you do or don't do, be good to yourself

And have a wonderful 2006!

Posted by: AmyS at December 29, 2005 08:18 AM

Jeep love is true love. Your Jeep will always love you. www.hrja.org, for further proof!

Posted by: Yvonne at December 29, 2005 08:33 AM

You have inspired me once again. I really needed this one:

• Forget about fear.

And this one:

• Don't choose the known over the unknown just because it's comfortable.

And silly but so true ones like this one:

• No more late fees at the library. I mean, really. That is just sad.

I am always afraid to make a list at the beginning of the year because at the end of the year I will have to face what I did not accomplish, but this year is a new year and since "forget about fear" is at the top of my list now, I will HAVE to make a list and then put it where I will read it every day and actually make an effort to get through the list.

Thank you for the inspiration.

Oh, and as always I got a giggle out of some of the items on your list which actually hit home because many of them belong on my list too. I can see why you like lists; your list is wonderful.

I wish you luck in accomplishing everything even the dreaded date. If you do that one first, the rest of the year will be smooth sailing.

Wishing you a joyous new year.

Posted by: Jojokat at December 29, 2005 09:37 AM

I like Georgia, meself. It's kinda pretty... I'm a listmaker from waaaay back. When I would go to summer camp/visiting my dad in LA in high school, I would make a list of everything I was bringing (often running to 3 pages) and check that list when I was packing to come home! My dad thought I was nuts; he would always attribute it to being raised by two Virgos. Thanks daddy, for your anal-retentive listmaking skillz!

Posted by: Kay at December 29, 2005 09:39 AM

"Whenever tempted to say, "Oh, Mr. X and I went there..." or "I did that with Mr. X..." close mouth. Do not speak. Think of cute puppies."

I used to have trouble with this one because the Ex and I had done so much stuff together. I resented losing half of my stories just to avoid mentioning him. Eventually, I realized that it usually wasn't critical to mention him specifically. I could substitute "an old friend" or "a guy I used to know" without compromising the story.

Of course, this is only to be used in cases when the telling of the story does not bring up sad memories in and of itself.

Great list! I made a "105 in 2005" list of small goals and plan to do a "106 in 2006" as well. Mmm, lists.

Posted by: Erica at December 29, 2005 10:09 AM

I sooo relate with the listing. I have a special notebook for my lists and I like to write them in pretty colored ink. My list book must also be cool and portable. Then I have a special post it book. One should always add in what they did that day that was not on the list and cross off. That way the ADHD moments look planned. CAP, you are an important part of my day. A must read. I truly am not a weirdo stalker, just a 41 yr old mom who is a loyal fan. Thanks for Living Out Loud!

Posted by: Bethi at December 29, 2005 10:12 AM

Re: drinking water...

Do you have good water at work? And a cool thing to drink it in? I found that I drank much more water when I bought a lime green nalgene bottle. Sad, but it works.

I also started buying bottles of the unsweetened seltzer water that smells like lime. It feels like I'm treating myself, but it's cheap (79 cents for a liter) and it's water!

Posted by: ro at December 29, 2005 10:37 AM

i liked this list. i'm a list maker too. it gives you hope. but at 40, and after unlimited and infinite lists, i'm catching on to myself.

but i'll do another one this year too.

and i'm stealing your post. i'll give you credit so now you can have 196 comments becuase LOTS of people visit my blog..heh..heh...not really.

Posted by: tanya at December 29, 2005 11:04 AM

I'm so surprised that no one else came up with this: How many things on your lists could you have gotten done in the amount of time it took for you to make said lists?

I'm just sayin'.

Start the 401K today and never start a savings account. If you EVER get an extra $100 or something to start a savings account put it towards your home mortgage or Visa card instead. Why make 2% on a savings account when you can be not-paying 15% on your credit card or 7% on your mortgage?

I'm just sayin' some more.

Posted by: Imaginarymaggie at December 29, 2005 11:04 AM

I, too, love making lists. I used to keep them all in a moleskine book - love those. I recently found one - my favorite list in it was "What I Can Do to Meet John Cusack." Ha.

Posted by: Lara at December 29, 2005 11:12 AM

Lara, that's so funny, I still have a list called "What I Can Do to Meet Patrick Dempsey."

Posted by: Kim in CT at December 29, 2005 12:53 PM

Mmmmm. Elixir.

Posted by: Hurricane Chase at December 29, 2005 01:10 PM

Great list! While I'm not a list-maker myself, I do appreciate that order in others. I do like some of your "do's" and we (and I'm sure many others) have plenty of "don'ts" in common.


It is hard to get over the "my X and I were/did/have..." syndrome. Thinking of puppies before speaking those words will help - and after a while you get used to not saying 'em. (Yup, it's true - except for occasionally when it's truly unavoidable. You'll create fresher memories in the meantime.


The Reinhold Niebuhr "Serenity Prayer" - original, unabridged version, is a good thing to read too. "...living one day at a time,enjoying one moment at a time..."


But for sure, next Xmas going somewhere where there's a cabana boy, or heck, where there's a cabana is a grand idea!

Posted by: mustakoyra at December 29, 2005 01:31 PM

I made my own list, shamelessly inspired by yours. it probably would have been easier to copy and paste. Happy 2006!!!

Posted by: tonja at December 29, 2005 03:26 PM

I LOVE YOU! I'm totally a post-it note list maker. Although sometimes I'll make a post-it note list and then put it in my Palm too. And tahoma is obviously the best font :)

Posted by: Vicki at December 29, 2005 08:49 PM

Your lists are terrific.
AND.. if you want to really discover new interesting things... Make a list of 100. I.e. 100 practical things to change, or 100 ways to reduce the size of your derriere, or 100 ways to expand your comfort zone. It's OK to repeat items, but the rule is to finish the list in one sitting (It shouldn't take much longer than 30 minutes)... Themes emerge. Trust me.

Posted by: PainterWoman at December 29, 2005 11:55 PM

I stumbled across your blog, read this post about lists, and couldn't stop laughing. So I read the entire blog. Start to finish! You're absolutely hilarious!! I've added you to my links. Keep on making me smile. And I hope you have a Wonderful New Year!!!

Posted by: Melissa at December 31, 2005 07:25 AM

One word of warning - taking partner dance classes alone as a single gal can just make things worse sometimes.

But the bellydancing is a wonderous thing. You can take a class with girlfriends, or go by yourself and meet new galpals. The best part - it's one of the only dance classes where the skinny ballerina girls don't have the "right" body.

Posted by: MaryR at December 31, 2005 01:29 PM

Loved the Celebrate Life list.
Seems like a much better way to look at life instead of beating yourself up over things that aren't you.

Posted by: Carol Peddle at January 2, 2006 06:47 AM

Love your list! About 20 years ago, I was living your 2005 year. You are much more together than I was! Good for you!!!

Posted by: Jo Griffith at January 2, 2006 03:47 PM

Love the one about salsa !! I put salsa on my to-do list of favorite things a month ago and still havent budged an inch ... Nice to see I'm not the only one with such ambitions .........

Posted by: Michele at January 3, 2006 02:38 AM

Wow, what a list! Must tell you, Up Country is $3.28 a 100 gram ball on Elann.com. Of course, the only color available is Silver Mist aka gray. Sort of one of those good news/bad news things, ya know?

Posted by: Barbara at January 3, 2006 10:19 AM

I'm not going to make my own list. I'm just going to copy most of yours and post in a conspicuous (??) - obvious - place and claim it for my very own.

Posted by: Felicia at January 4, 2006 10:44 AM

good list...may i borrow...i am inspired...and damn your ideas are good! i have some of the same but didn't write them down...

Off to my first knitting class tonight -- that is on my surreal list, yeh for me!!!!!!!!!

Happy and blessings in the nuevo ano, chiquita!

Posted by: kd at January 4, 2006 01:48 PM

dude. if you can actually GET a date then you are one up on me.

Posted by: carolyn at January 6, 2006 03:02 PM