Friday night at a yarn store. Sounds absolutely heavenly to me. The good life, baby....really!!

Living well is the best revenge!!
Show Mr. X what creative is *really* like!!

Pass the wine indeed! *clink* ;)

I love how happy you sound-it's nice to remember that we don't really need anyone else to know how good we are and how much we like good yarn! Jane

Oh thank you, thank you for that post...I was in a bit of a funk about my own situation til I read this: "But, let's be honest. In America, 60% of us end up like me, divorced and drunk and covered in cat hair."

Nearly choked on my coffee.

Have a great weekend, Auntie. You deserve the best!

Now you're getting the idea. Some of my best times were after my divorce, after I realized how fun it can be to just hang out with cool people, chatting over a beer (not at a meat-shop/club). Enjoy it.

"Divorced and drunk and covered in cat hair." Good golly, that's funny! I just had to come out of lurkdom and tell you how much I've been enjoying reading your blog.

Bob, you should go over and meet Jesse!
http://www.sheepinthecity.prettyposies.com/
Are you twins?

Hell, I am married - one might even say happily married! Single definitely has it's pluses! Remember when men tried to woo, instead of assuming you were a "sure thing" (and then getting really pissy at the discovery that them farting on the couch doesn't count as foreplay)???

WORD-I'm not married, but the LTR is not that different at this point. Yarn stores have the potential to be much more full of excitement, as I proved yesterday by visiting two of them, Yay crazy friday night yarn girls!

Amen to the girls who are divorced, drunk and covered in cat hair! I'm proud to be a member of that club!

And also of the club that said "dude" every 5th word. Someone here in Florida the other day told me I had "a California accent". What a tactful way he said it; hah hah!

Friday nights at the Yarn Store are #1 with me too. Book stores are a #2. Everything else pretty much competes with my knitting, as in 'do I want to listen to you complain/brag/bitch or do I want to go home and knit?' Guess which ones always wins. HEY!! I'm STILL waiting for the fish tacos at the beach! I thought for sure the divorce papers would show up and have fish tacos there. Now I'm waiting for the hat to get there. You know, you could be knitting at the beach this weekend. With wine!!!! Knitting at the beach with wine!! I'm sitting at home with a broken foot knitting Clapotis. When are you going to the beach to knit with wine?????

yay, being single rocks! I moved to a new town last week for a good job opportunity, and if I was still in my relationship (in hindsight, it was REALLY BAD for me), I'd be sitting here moping and missing him instead of thinking about what kind of fun I can have by myself... farmers' market, bookstore, yarn shop, and maybe some camping. and that's just this weekend! Here's to the single women! cheers!

I almost had a fight over the dishes this morning - good times. As for what married women are doin' - this married woman has a whole gaggle of mistresses with yarn and roving whom she sees often enough to keep the mister guessin! ;)

Rock on with your cat hair-covered drunk ass self!

I've been single, I've been married, I've been divorced, and now I'm "living in sin." And there's good and bad in all of them. When I've been coupled, I crave alone time, and when I'm single, I crave companionship. There's something to be said for a bit of both.

I'm with you, time with friends in yarn stores doing what you love ranks as a great friday night!

Wow! Your posts always make me laugh but this one really hit home-- I am so glad to know there are others out there like me,

"it's not because I yearn to stand awkwardly at a bar and make small talk with a strange man younger and cuter than me who also says "dude" every fifth word."

I love it! I was at a bar last night, fantasizing about knitting, and I thought I was a weirdo. It's nice to know I'm not. Thanks.

I often end up cleaning off my keyboard after i read your blog. why is that? i always laugh when i read your blog, and strangely, i seem to be always eating when i'm reading blogs... maybe i'm always reading blogs when i'm eating? anyway...

Single, never married, never been in a situation where I was considered "not single" (ie long-term-dating or whatever). I'm starting to realize that either I'm just getting scary-set-in-my-ways or i'm actually just okay as a single 30-ish person. I tend to be one of those ones who think that the marrieds have something that I don't have and that I want, but I am starting to realize that it's only in certain situations. (someone to start the car in the winter. someone to take to company dinners. someone to drive on the long trip to Saskatchewan... there might be other things too... haha) and that on a day-to-day basis, it would have to be a pretty great relationship to be good all the time. He would have to be okay with or appreciative of the yarn that covers almost every surface, for example.

Whew. long winded. sorry.

Anyway, this is just to say, thanks for some perspective. and I'm really jealous of the friday night yarn "club scene" you got there!

dude

Dude, sounds like fun! What did you work on at the yarn shop?

When I was single I thought that the non-singles had it all. Now that I'm in a relationship, I long for some single time (and take it--teehee!). Every situation has its pluses and minues. Glad to read that you're finding your pluses :-)

Dude, you are so right! Like, you know, marriage is hard work and stuff. And, like, if you're the only one working on it dude, it SO sucks. So, you, know, enjoy your independence, dude, and ROCK ON!

I was pretty well tied to my homebodiness before I met Knitting. Now Knitting and I go everywhere together, and Knitting never worries about what other people think. Knitting likes to be seen in public with me, Knitting enjoys a cozy evening at home, Knitting even goes to the movies with me if I want. Knitting certainly thinks Friday night at a yarn shop sounds like a fabulous way to pass an evening, and Knitting never, ever gets jealous when I spend time with other people, because of course, I always end up telling eveyone just how much I love me my Knitting.

Right on Dude - you got it. This morning I folded sheets, washed clothes, did some dishes and thought "wow, being a Grown-Up Married Person just ain't all that". I love the husbandman, don't get me wrong, and he actually knits and comes to Knit n' Sip and picks out yarn and enables in ways you can't imagine (perverts!!). But there are days I yearn for yarn in a singlegirl kind of way :) So the moral is, the yarn isn't always greener on the other side of the knitting bag.

I'm married, and HAPPY!! (except for the strategically placed empty Ritz cracker boxes; he can't bring himself to express verbally the critical cracker shortage, write a note and/or throw away Perfectly Good Packaging) and the secret to my success is having met him in a BOOKSTORE, where they allow KNITTING :-D

We both worked there. And yes, I was in charge of the--wait for it--knitting section :>

He loves my knitting. He'll love it even more when I finish that second sock... WIP requires carbon-dating, but my estimate is 4½ years. In the meantime, scores of projects for other people have arisen from the yarn-sniffing stage, been completed, given, worn, and spawned requests for more.

But most of my adult life was spent covered in cat hair too, with books, wine, yarn and the Internets. Wouldn't trade it, but I wish I'd known there would be a hubby eventually, one my cats would not only approve but, in one case, throw me over for. One who accepts the concept of STASH and enjoys chick flicks as much as anime (boo hiss) and Jackie Chan (I can't believe I didn't know martial arts can be HILARIOUS).

They're out there--I don't think I got the last one :> So glad you are now X-free. Love the wristband.

I just want to point at the monitor and say, "Yeah... what she said!" I hated getting divorced, but I do love having a justification-free yarn closet. :-)

Dude, I can't imagine you saying what you say in this post just two months ago. It just would not have happened. I am so impressed by how far you have come.

Your yarn shops are open on Friday nights? WOW! That impresses me almost as much! (OK, I know of one shop that is open on Friday nights but it isn't exactly a place where you can sit and chat - it has too much yarn and too many notions)

When I was growing up I used to hear my parents say most mornings, "Wonder what Dear Abby has to say today?" Being a wee tot, I thought this was someone they knew well (with the dear in front of the Abby and all.) I don't know why it never occurred to me that I never SAW Dear Abby, just heard a whole lot about what she had to say about other folks' business. Then I grew older and found out "everyone" knew Dear Abby and could find her words of wisdom in her newspaper column.

I guess it's a good thing my kiddo is more than a wee tot, or she would think she had a Crazy Aunt Purl. I seem to be saying a lot these days, "I wonder what Crazy Aunt Purl did yesterday..."

Hee! Love you bunches (even if you are single, drunk and covered with cat hair...although I miss the Cheetos.)

Good for you! Sakes, that sounds like my life. Always hoping I can convince the bf to go somewhere. So I just go without him! :)

Okay, dahlink - that MUST the the title of your essay - Divorced, Drunk & Covered in Cat Hair... (or whatever else you want...)

Oh, this blog hits the spot - I'm officially hooked! Right now I'm at the fun stage of life where all my friends are either newlyweds (so no bitterness yet) or engaged, and of course I'm single... so rock on, single knitters!

I feel like I'm the married homebody! Getting out by one's self is so liberating...just going and hanging with new people. I don't think that most people spend enough time alone, experiencing new things. I guess we always feel like we need to have a safety net...just in case we find ourselves in *gasp* a social situation where we need to carry on a conversation.
Anywho...I love reading about your adventures in self discovery...find your happiness, girl!...complete with wine, yarn, addis and cat hair!

dear aunt purl, please go to this blog: mymountainhome.typepad.com/ and scroll down to the may 6th 2005 post. :)

The wrong man is worse than no man at all.

The wrong yarn/wine/cat? Still pretty damn good.

Besides, happy girls are way more attractive, drunken and cat-hairy, than unhappy ones.

I've always wondered why there is so much pressure on women to be HALF of something to feel like a WHOLE person. BS! Even though I'm living in sin (have been for over 10 years) I totally hear you. You Go Girl!

This was the perfect post for me tonight. I'm in Colorado, surrounded by folks whose values, while not particularly bad or evil, are desperately different than mine. It's all about marriage to them - I can't have my great grandmother's china until I get married. The fact that I live with my boyfriend can't be acknowledged.

But, dammit, I'm single, I'm free, I'm willing to be covered with cat hair, and alcohol sounds _way_ good right now.

(Besides, I ditched the boyfriend for the computer in my mom's room. Muahahaha.)

So right on.

You're too young and cute to be a bitter divorcee. Go out and have fun! And speaking as a guy that probably says "dude" too much, don't let that scare you away. ;-)

Oh, I'm not bitter. I believe in love. I just believe there is life after married... I have to believe it. Have to!

"...I can do that all by myself" Honey, you have just become un-"postfeminist" Congratulations and hold on to that thought!

Wow.

Thank you.

As someone who is a helluva lot more single than I realized (long story) that spends an AWFUL lot of time alone (I HATE being alone) it was really great to hear your side of things. And that you're getting out there, etc. Maybe there is hope for me after all.

*Pass the wine*

I'm married. It's over-rated. I clean the cat box. Change the toilet paper rolls. Do the dishes. Not to mention...well, I won't.

You know, you take out the RR and the E and ya got MAID.

Enjoy your new Singlehood. I'm enjoying it vicariously.

hey, want to know what i did on friday night? listened to joe complain about how sick he felt after his colonoscopy and how clearly i must be poisoning him with antifreeze just like that woman did that they showed on dateline.

there's good and bad in every situation. but i'm glad to hear you are embracing you singlehood. because you should. i miss being single a lot sometimes.